![]() ![]() In most cases, I saved the big reveal for the fourth date. I knew the scandal, compounded by the fact that I wrote openly about my personal life, would be too much for some men. By then I’d appeared the cover of the NY Post, lost my teaching career, and established a new one as a writer. When I started dating online, I knew I wanted to discuss my sex work past - and everything else - with anyone I got serious with. That relationship taught me that “I don’t have a problem with what you used to do for money, just don’t ever talk about it” wasn’t good enough for me. It took six years, but I eventually found the courage to leave. Like many women in abusive situations, I believed him. My past became a weapon he used against me when we argued, he insinuated no one else would want to date me because of it. “Don’t ask, don’t tell” was our policy, but as a result of tip-toeing around his drug use and my experience with sex work, our intimacy suffered. Mike* had plenty of baggage of his own, beginning but not ending with an unshakeable drug habit. Almost ten years ago, when I first stopped drinking and was just getting out of the sex industry, I fell into a relationship with a man who made me feel ashamed of my then-recent past. Relationships can be risky for anyone, but this is especially true for
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